I Married a Worship Leader

I married a worship leader, and yes, the picture attached to this blog is Lindsey playing the piano. The Lord gave Lindsey a very unique ability to lead God’s people in worship, to carry out the administrative functions that go with that calling, to lead a band in creating music, to play piano, to understand the relational value between a worship leader and the congregation, to write songs…this list could go on and on.

When I first met Lindsey 4 years ago, her ability to lead worship was one of the first things I recognized about her. She was currently leading at a Bible Church in our college town. I first heard her sing, and I thought, HOLY COW! Then, she played piano for me one night and I thought, OH MY WORD. Then, I saw her lead a congregation of over 500 people in worship, and I nearly fainted right there in the church. I had never seen a 21-year-old woman do what she was doing, It was incredible. (She’s modest, but she can lead in worship much better, and more flutently than I can) –side note, as I (Lindsey) edit this blog post for my husband, I respectfully disagree. My husband is modest. He has an innate gift of music and leading worship much better than I!

A month after I started to realize these incredible talents and gifts the Lord had blessed Lindsey with, I remember sitting down in her living room and sharing with her that the Lord had been speaking to me very clearly about his calling for my life, to lead others in worship. As seriously as I’ve ever looked at anyone before, I looked straight at Lindsey and said, “You have an incredible set of gifts, and the Lord does not just give people the gifts you have for no reason.” Months went by and Lindsey became more and more involved at her home church leading worship. It was incredible that God allowed me to watch Lindsey grow and use her gifts.

Soon after that, God’s calling for me to lead worship grew and grew. But it was no longer a calling for me; it was a calling for us. I sat down with Lindsey one night, and I told her about what the Lord had been speaking to me. From that moment on, we agreed that it was “our” calling, and not “my” calling. I was so careful in those moments because I never wanted Lindsey to feel like she had to do this with me. I wanted Lindsey to follow her dreams, to be whatever she wanted to be, and maybe a worship leader was not one of those dreams, and I was ok with that. This was not the case, because the Lord placed the same calling on my life, which he did on hers. To lead His children in worship. We know our calling will look different in seasons of life to come. Lindsey has a dream to be a mother, and take care of our children one day. I have a dream of being a father as well.

We know that throughout life, our calling will look different, but it will always be the same calling. Is that vocationally for us both? For one of us? Or maybe the Lord has an entirely different plan for our worship ministry. We don’t know. What we do know is our calling is real, its genuine, and its simple: to lead His children in worship.

I always joke with Lindsey and tell her that one day, a ministry or church is going to call her to be their worship leader, and she’ll have to say, wait…. it’s both or nothing, because my husband is coming. We’re a packaged deal. She hates it when I say that because she secretly thinks a ministry, church, or camp will ask for me to lead, and I will be the one to say, “It’s a two for one special”. We don’t mean that in a rude or disrespectful way, but when you know what the Lord has called you to do, you don’t mess around with his calling, and you don’t let anyone change it but Him. Even when our culture (not the Bible) says women can’t be the lead worship leader (that’s for another blog post).

So, what does that mean for two married worship leaders in the future? We have no clue. Here is what we know: It’s a two for one special, and we wouldn’t have it any other way.

Love you all!

-Trent